Lately I have been really down. It is due to a mixture of problems in my life. I won’t bore you. I’m unemployed, clueless about what direction to take my future career in, my family never stop arguing and treat me like their door mat around the house. I’m just angry/ frustrated and upset.
I try to confide in my boyfriend about how I’m feeling inside. I don’t know if I’m depressed. When I talk about thing he says nothing at all. 2 days ago when I really had enough of it and confessed that I wished I wouldn’t wake up tomorrow - he responded in the most unsupportive way. See quotations.
“This is nothing in comparison to what you will have to face in the future. “
“The world doesn’t work the way you had imagined.”
“I have been on the same boat as you and I sailed through it.”
“This is reality. I don’t want to give you false hopes lol”
“The problems u had before were only the tip of the iceberg.”
I was crying at the time. I understand that maybe it can be hard to have to listen to a person who is having problems and that you sometimes need to have a “tough love” attitude. However- I just feel the way he responded to my breakdown was extremely cruel and unsupportive. Whenever he is having a hard time I am always there for him. Is this acceptable or am I just over reacting? I haven’t talked to him in almost 2 days because I’m mad and feel like he makes me feel worse. How should I deal with him? Any answers much appreciated :(
Answers & Comments
He honestly sounds like a loser. I don’t know how else to break it to you. He doesn’t sound like he’s giving you “tough love” he just sounds like he has no emotional depth to him
You should be angry and use that anger as motivation!!!! That anger is what you should be using as fuel to motivate you not your boyfriend. It’s time you should fight back and don’t let things get to you.
Your boyfriend might not have the answers you are looking for but you also have to make him understand what’s going on. This could be a first for him and doesn’t know what to say or do.